Including my son I believe men should take care of themselves to I'm pretty sure there are a good number of men with crusty feet out there, it's really not necessary!!!
I'm a qualified nail technician and beautician so I have a lot of left over beauty products from my student and self-employment days, I could never bring myself to throw them away so from time to time they come out and as true little girls do when mummy gets a treatment they want one too. We currently have matching minx toenails (obviously not my son) and we've had a few make up and facial session. What I didn't realise is that as I'm treating myself and my children I'm teaching them, when Kezia offered to help with my facial my initial reaction was nahhhh but then I thought it's just a bit of fun so I let her get involved to my surprise she was really good at it the technique she used to apply my mask, tone my face and moisturise it, that came with a little face massage followed by a short foot massage. I'm blown away by this I didn't have any idea how much she's learned just my receiving and watch me perform treatments.
I've been going to university open days and taking them with me and hearing them planning careers like nursing and telling me they'll be going to 'that uni we went to today' it sounds pretty basic if you don't understand why I'm so happy.
As a child I wasn't encouraged of guided to do much in my memory and it's taken me many years of quitting, failure, floating through life, being lost in thought and direction before I could finally make a decision on my future I won't pretend I came to that decision entirely on my own if God hadn't put that desire in me I most likely still wouldn't have a clue now. Looking back on all the courses I started but didn't finish or all the jobs I've had I've got loads of skills and experience today they all lead me to my future they tie in well. I laugh to myself when I think about my foot phobia and how I had to overcome it and learn pedicures to pass my nail course, and how I was extremely uncomfortable with close body contact but in order to pass my beauty course I had to get over it. Body contact and interaction with others is pretty much necessary on a daily basis in the working world. God knew what he was doing when I only wanted something to do to get me out the house. I didn't realise at the time I would be investing in my future, and my calling. It's even more amazing to know I can take a skill I've learnt and invest it in my children so they grow aswell. The foundation we lay for our babies is very important you don't always see the benefits at first but eventually they start to return, with interest!
The fact my son was around 11 when I began to find out who and what I am is noticeable, he still shows signs of being unsettled, unsure and inconfidence, if course he puts on a front but I'm mom' I see right through it.
To me this means I've got to put in double the work with him to give him a better chance and to reverse the effects of instability in his life and decisions. Although he's 14 he needs me to hold his hand every step of the way until he gets to his destination sometimes his attitude and behaviour make me not want to go near him let alone invest my time and effort into him, I'm a single parent with two other children my time seems limited in between my own studies, having to search for a job, the at home stuff and trying to stay spiritually boosted.
At times I still feel like just giving it all up but I get a lot of signs and conscience pricking to do with me learning to step outside my comfort zone and not to stop pushing always stay praying.
When I get little returns like my girls giving me beauty treatments I know I have to keep going even if it's slowly I can give up it doesn't just affect my future it affects their foundation. No parent wants their child to struggle in life. 
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